Lessons of Life / Sucess

1.   Facing the people/ problems

If you are feeling miserable, it is only because people and environment make you feel that way. You are awesome as you are and that is what matters. It is important to have your own opinion, because it shows that you can stand against the current and don’t have to follow others. They might be smarter, better in some fields, but they will never be you, because you are original. When there arise some problems, the best way to deal with them is right away and not putting them for later, because somehow that can influence your mind and make it less powerful to other things that are important for the life. If you cannot deal with people or problems, it means you are weak.

    2.  Never show your weakness

Despite the fact that every person has their own week points, it is important that about them would know less people or at the best – nobody. Everything that they know can be used against you and that is not what you want. Important is to know other people’s weakness so you can use it in your favor when you will have the need for it. This knowledge can become a powerful weapon. Never allow anyone see you crying even if you do that. It is a strong sign of weakness that you cannot bear with something and that you care too much about something that has made a disappointment.

3.      Use and not be used

The fact is that you cannot trust anyone. Sooner or later they will let you down. Only thing that counts is you yourself. Despite the fact that being kind and helpful is a good thing to do it can be easily used in hands of others. You should always think forward about how it will affect you. Everyone has their needs and wants and that means that they will use anything they can to feel better, richer, etc. If you yourself will be strong enough to use what other person offers, it should be done. Also when there is something important you want, you should press your opinion to make things go the way you want.

    4. Be alone, do not get attached

The saying that being alone makes you lonely is only some child story. You can be much stronger when there are not people surrounding you with their needs and desires. You can spend time with them, but during that time you can do something much more meaningful that will stay with you then some memories that will die after some time and make sadness that will affect negatively. Even your best friend should be kept in some distance, because you can never know where the life will bring you. He is just a human and has his own needs and things to do in life. It is true that after some time when he will find something better, he will feel like there is no space for you anyways. Important is to leave first and do not return, talk about the past.

5.  Sacrifice everything for the goal

If you want something strongly, it is important to determining go forward it. Even just a step closer to it is important. If somebody is in your way to it, you should be stronger than him and push him of the way. If you know what you are going for, you should not let anyone try to stop you or join you, because in life there are fights that should be taken alone. Family can only make you attached to one place. Grow up! The real life is far away from them and if they do not support you, there should not be any reason to keep strong contact with them. If they cannot evaluate what you have become and what you do, it is their problem. You do not need to make excuses why you are living the only life you have the way you do.

   6.      Do not trust people

This statement refers also to friends. You have gained them along the way anyways. The fact is that no matter how much you know other person, you cannot know him fully. And it is important also that any other person does not know everything about you. Less they know, less there will be also some critics and power to influence your habits and way of thinking.

    7.      Never give/ lend money to anyone

It is important to not show that you are well-off. If someone will know about your income, they will want to get something from you. There are many other options how to get money if someone is in such a need for it like credits. You do not have to pay for other people mistakes. It is your money and you have earned it the way you have and only you deserve to use it the way you want.

   8.      Be an actor

Important is to not show your true side to anyone, because more important to have different sides to make other people trust you so that you can use it in your favor. You can make someone trust you and you should always be smarter than him. Smiling and laughing also might gain other trust and getting more from them will be easier.

9.      No regrets

When a person is moving forward, the only thing that is important is how much he has also done, not what he have not. Thinking about things that have not been done can make feeling of sadness or some other negative emotions. That will only poison the main and will not bring to anything. If there are risks in life, they should be taken as you can be already winner just because you choose to go after it.

    10.  Be productive

Make each second count to make something meaningful that makes you happy or ears money to you. Only you should be in the first place, not some other people’s needs and wants. You can read news, book or some important material being on the way to some meeting and in other places where to you is offered less important information.

   11.  Being good does not mean that it will be given back

People live in a cruel word and despite that there is honestly, humanity, etc. good characteristics, it can always disappoint and if you do something good for others does not mean it will be given back to you. You can do good for yourself.

   12.  Promises are weak arguments

No matter how much a person promises something, it can always be broken do to many circumstances. Moreover, for some giving a promise does not mean anything much and is just a way to make something out of other person.

    13.  Saying sorry does not make a person better

Reference to the previous noted statement can be found even in Refused song New Noise – ‘‘Great words won’t cover ugly actions - good frames won't save bad paintings’’. If a person thinks clearly, he can always find a way to do less harm to another person no matter what other circumstances are. Problem is that people put friendships far lower than their own needs. Therefore, you should also never do something or somebody if that does not give something back to you. You cannot wait from another person something in return as it might never come. Indeed, giving something to others can make you feel better, but in this material world it is a weak tool and will not lead to anything more than that.

14.  Trust only yourself

The truth is that everyone in this world will disappoint you, because it is just how the world functions. You can only trust yourself and your actions that will lead somewhere someday even without any other person around you.

15.  Sometimes silence is the best answer

You do not need to explain your actions to anyone else, because they will think whatever they want. Therefore, it is easier simply not giving explanation at all and let them judge without any background at all and then you will know that their arguments are valid, because they does not know the case. It takes also less energy and time to explain something that will be interpreted anyways in other’s opinions or some society stereotypes.

    16.  Be rational

Do not follow some emotions of the moment. Your brain is cleverer than a heart. Heart makes decisions of feelings and other non-material values that cannot make something as meaningful as rational thinking.

   17.  Never give up

It does not matter how many times you fail. The most important is what you have achieved and what is going the way it should. As long as you keep trying, there is a chance to win. Without trying you have already lost.

18.  Be in love with what you do

Being highly interested in what you do. It is a great motivator that keeps going on. As well you will invest more in what you like then other things that are not satisfying that much. Differently from a person what you like or love to do will not go away no matter of other circumstances.

19.  Combine things

There is so much time and only absence of it can really make you notice how many options there should be done to make it as meaningful as possible. If you do two or more things at a time, you will be able to save some time, for example, when cooking; you can meanwhile at least read something, not just stand in the kitchen and stare at the food. Doing more at time when it is professionally developed ability is valuable.

20.  Never give up on dreams

If you can dream something, you can also make it happen. It is important to have them even deep inside of you – to keep alive what you desire. They can also become a powerful motivator and help choosing choices in the daily life to step forward your dreams and not away from them. It is also important to keep them by yourself so that they can be safe from other people influence that can try to break them or follow your steps. It is your way and it can be the right one. It does not matter what other’s choose and how they do what they want.